Gift Giving:
Giving gifts is a funny thing and for me, often feels stressful. In my family, we began drawing names for the adults several years ago, and still all give to the kids. I realize how blessed we all are, as in reality, none of us, including the kids, truly “needs” much of anything at all. There are a variety of things we could have someone else buy for us and save us in our budget, and the kid’s rooms overflow with toys, (and I think of myself as being fairly frugal with what we get). So then it’s a decision of what whims do you indulge, is there something they could actually use, something beautiful to grace their home, or for the kids, what will help them blossom and develop, and what might just tickle their heart because they love it. For the adults, I feel somewhat crippled by my fear of wasting money giving something they truly don’t need or like and will quickly end up in the “regift” or Goodwill pile. I am blessed with a mother-in-law, 2 sisters-in-law, and several friends who are all fabulous gift givers. They usually manage to find something wonderful for the kids and myself alike, and are ever so generous. If you believe in the concept of “love languages”, those who love giving gifts, often feel loved by receiving gifts as well. Ugh! I feel like I fail miserably in the reciprocating department. Am I giving “enough”, will they think I’m cheap because I didn’t do as much, or more importantly, will they be disappointed? I really did want to say “I love you” in a special way, but feel like I fall short. I wish that those I love were close enough to offer a loaf of homemade bread, or babysit for a night or a weekend and send them out to dinner together, or make a batch of cookies to surprise them on a gloomy, rainy day. Those are the gifts at which I feel like I’m good. So in the end, I’ll hope that my friends and family know that I do love them, and I’m just not such a great gift giver.
Merry Christmas All!
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